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Bored with school at age 6
Monday, 12 Sep, 2011 – 12:29 | 2 Comments
Bored with school at age 6

Boots’ school operates on a color system – kids start the day at green and either move up to yellow, orange and then red or down to blue, purple and gray.
The problems with that are …

Big Guy’s warp-speed world
Thursday, 31 Mar, 2011 – 11:14 | Comments Off
Big Guy’s warp-speed world

The running joke about Big Guy is that he was born in a hurry. He arrived a week early, with all the subtlety of a thunderstorm, and tried to pop his head up and look …

What’s in a name? A whole heap of trouble
Tuesday, 18 Jan, 2011 – 11:35 | Comments Off
What’s in a name? A whole heap of trouble

There’s name calling, and then there’s name calling.
We have zero tolerance for one kind in our house: Anything that’s gender, race or sexual preference-based. I called Big Guy out recently for saying, “that’s so gay,” …

The problem with bribes is they expect them
Wednesday, 16 Jun, 2010 – 13:14 | Comments Off
The problem with bribes is they expect them

I’ll confess: I bribed Boots this morning, and it worked.
During Day One of swimming class, he did great until the instructor wanted them to bob  in the water.
“No,” he insisted quietly but firmly, with the …

Setting your own sentence
Tuesday, 18 May, 2010 – 13:21 | Comments Off
Setting your own sentence

Mom-meeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! Big Guy tooked my glowie, Boots shrieked down the stairs as his brother ran behind him waving the coveted chem light.
Is that his? I asked Big Guy, though I was pretty sure that Boots’ …

The case of the hug-happy kid
Wednesday, 21 Apr, 2010 – 13:19 | Comments Off
The case of the hug-happy kid

As far as discipline problems go, it’s a not-bad one to have. It’s preferable to biting, hitting, kicking, pinching, etc.
It’s still annoying, though, and it’s getting Boots in trouble somewhere virtually every day: At school, …

Lunch with teacher
Tuesday, 2 Mar, 2010 – 13:18 | Comments Off
Lunch with teacher

When we last left Big Guy, his big mouth was causing problems at school on a daily basis. It’s a seasonal issue for him that’s going to crop up just as sure as the teacher …

Liar, liar, pants on fire – again
Monday, 11 Jan, 2010 – 12:22 | Comments Off
Liar, liar, pants on fire – again

“Mommy! Superman’s face is all black. What did he do to it?” Big Guy demanded indignantly, thrusting the toy under my nose.
Sure enough, there now was a chunk of dark plastic where a face and …

How to survive the holidays without killing your kids
Tuesday, 29 Dec, 2009 – 17:24 | 3 Comments
How to survive the holidays without killing your kids

Mommy, can I have water with ice?
Mommy, he won’t let me watch “Wubbzy.”
Mommy, he went “nah nah” at me and stuck out his tongue.
Mommy, can I have candy?
I hate the word “workflow,” largely because the …

The end-of-the-week angel
Friday, 11 Dec, 2009 – 12:19 | 3 Comments
The end-of-the-week angel

Thursday was a great day for Big Guy.
He won $10 and a chocolate bar at a bingo game then spent $8 of the take on Christmas presents for others. He volunteered to share the candy …

Doing right because it’s the right thing to do
Tuesday, 8 Dec, 2009 – 14:01 | Comments Off
Doing right because it’s the right thing to do

As much as I hate to crush a kid, sometimes doing so serves the greater good.
Times such as last night, when Big Guy dallied over his latest penance for misbehaving at school. He’d tossed Play-Doh …

Yes, I’m making another chart
Wednesday, 2 Dec, 2009 – 13:46 | Comments Off
Yes, I’m making another chart

So what was that I was saying yesterday about being in a transition stage, where techniques that used to work no longer do the trick?
This morning – when Big Guy poked, goofed off, ignored me …

Yes, my kids are brats. And I bet you were, too
Tuesday, 1 Dec, 2009 – 13:56 | 4 Comments
Yes, my kids are brats. And I bet you were, too

Boots announced his arrival home with a wail and a belly-flop on the floor.
“What’s wrong with him?” Dad asked.
“It’s not Christmas,” I said.
“Huh?”
“They were decorating at school today, and he doesn’t get that he doesn’t …

The case of the easily offended 4-year-old
Monday, 16 Nov, 2009 – 14:54 | Comments Off
The case of the easily offended 4-year-old

Boots’ eyes got wide this morning after he accidentally bumped a classmate as they both hung their coats and the boy muttered something.
“Mommy!” Boots gasped. “He called me a name!”
I didn’t ask what the name …

Indiana Joan and the Duplex of Doom
Thursday, 12 Nov, 2009 – 14:43 | Comments Off
Indiana Joan and the Duplex of Doom

It looked like a perfect combination: Two boys, close in age, who love sports, Batman and brownies. So when a friend asked if I could baby-sit on one of those ever-popular days when day care’s …

Might as well jump
Monday, 9 Nov, 2009 – 15:30 | Comments Off

Notice to Big Guy:
Effective 10 November, 2009, the terms of your school-morning checklist will change. Please note this and make plans to adhere to the following requirements.

Put your lunch box in your backpack.
Be quiet on …

Supporting adults who really don’t deserve it
Thursday, 5 Nov, 2009 – 13:44 | Comments Off
Supporting adults who really don’t deserve it

Today was a “good” day at the bus stop.
The dozen and a half first- and second-grader crammed into a shelter not really big enough to hold them and either sat quietly on the bench or …

Does “naughty” last forever
Tuesday, 22 Sep, 2009 – 22:21 | Comments Off
Does “naughty” last forever

There are two types of behavior that put a kid at risk for being labeled “naughty” – a label, by the way, that can stick through a child’s school years and a reputation that can …

The bigger they are, the harder they brawl
Thursday, 17 Sep, 2009 – 12:22 | Comments Off
The bigger they are, the harder they brawl

It was their best imbroglio since the Pizza Man Melee almost a year ago, when they came to blows over imaginary food.
The BaseBrawl began when Big Guy decided to play in the backyard. He can’t …

A new drill to prepare for the worst
Monday, 30 Mar, 2009 – 12:45 | Comments Off
A new drill to prepare for the worst

Yes, I know the statistics.
A relative, neighbor, friend or acquaintance is much more likely to kidnap my child than the stereotypical trench coat-wearing stranger. It’s much more likely to happen at home or at a …

A clue to keeping peace at the grocery store
Friday, 13 Mar, 2009 – 13:17 | Comments Off
A clue to keeping peace at the grocery store

I’d like to claim I’d planned it, but like most of my instances of parenting genius the new grocery-store game was pure accident.
It started as I rummaged through the garbage can that my car has …

Talking his way into trouble epiblogue: Recess returns!
Tuesday, 24 Feb, 2009 – 11:30 | Comments Off
Talking his way into trouble epiblogue: Recess returns!

When we last left Big Guy, he was struggling mightly to keep his mouth shut and avoid losing recess time at school. He had brief spurts of success, but largely it was a problem that …

Big Guy keeps talking his way into trouble
Monday, 9 Feb, 2009 – 11:31 | Comments Off
Big Guy keeps talking his way into trouble

Big Guy simply cannot keep his mouth shut. It’s part of his charm, but also part of his downfall.
It keeps landing him in trouble at school, too, and Chatty  Charlie that he is, he always …

How long before they grasp “special”
Monday, 15 Dec, 2008 – 12:05 | Comments Off
How long before they grasp “special”

The guys get that Halloween is special — it doesn’t happen every day.
They understand that Christmas is once a year, despite Big Guy’s recent pleas to extend it and Boots’ fears that he’s missed it.
Much …

Sly Boots masters younger-sibling tricks
Sunday, 7 Dec, 2008 – 12:15 | Comments Off
Sly Boots masters younger-sibling tricks

The thump and the wail were loud enough that they brought Dad and me running from opposite directions. We arrived in the living room at the same time to see Boots red-faced and crying.
“What happened …

9to5to9: Liar, liar, pants on fire
Thursday, 13 Nov, 2008 – 0:17 | Comments Off
9to5to9: Liar, liar, pants on fire

Take one pint-size prevaricator, mix with a dash of “need to be right” and marinate in an active imagination.
The result: Big Guy’s current truth-challenged state.
In recent weeks, it’s advanced past the “cute but not remotely …

9to5to9: Making peace with the poop bag
Sunday, 26 Oct, 2008 – 22:41 | 2 Comments
9to5to9: Making peace with the poop bag

I’m not sure where it came from, but there’s a good chance Little Guy free-lanced it.
I’m not sure how to spell it, though lacking an official entry in Webster’s, I have to go with two …

9to5to9: The future might be do-able — if I survive
Friday, 24 Oct, 2008 – 0:51 | 2 Comments
9to5to9: The future might be do-able — if I survive

Finally! We had a perfectly angelic dinner tonight. On one side of the table, at least. Not the one where the guys were sitting, though.
Funny thing is, three years ago I could not have imagined …