Jury’s still out? What jury?
Then the recession hit - a downturn where men have accounted for 78 percent of the job losses. The U.S. Census Bureau has reported an increase in stay-at-home dads since 2002, a trend it says is due to the recession.
Is this "trend" a good thing? "The jury is out on that," one blogger proclaims in a post that has nothing to do with stay-at-home dads.
Um, what jury? Whose place is to judge an individual family's decisions, be they made freely or forced by economics. Unless those decisions involve physical or emotional abuse or neglect, it's really no one's business.
Oh, I forgot. It's the same jury that sentenced working mothers for years. Turns out, the jurors weren't really concerned that a parent stay home with the kids. They wanted to make sure that it was the mom, because women are better at that nurturing stuff and men are hard-wired as the bread winners.
It's actually more brain-washing than hard-wiring. Just watch a couple with a newborn baby and see which parent is offered more undermining "advice." The assumption, too often for this century, is that men shouldn't be trusted with their young.
Which is ridiculous. I know men who are far better parents than I am. I know other men who, with a little less criticism, could be far better parents than I am. And every man I've ever met has the potential to be just as nurturing and caring as, well, a mom.
Yes, men suffer ego blows when they lose their jobs because a great deal of their self-identity is build around their professions and their roles as bread winners. But women who lose their jobs go through the same thing.
Yes, it's a tricky transition from full-time worker to full-time homemaker. Women have to negotiate this as well.
Yes, a stay-at-home dad turns cultural traditions on their ears - and if a couple wants to travel that path together, more power to them.
So let's just dismiss the jurors. Their services really aren't needed.
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